Podcast
The Capa Podcast
Listen to our podcast on Spotify, Amazon Music, iTunes and Youtube.
Part of our mission statement is ‘to raise awareness amongst families and professionals around children/adolescents who use harmful and/or aggressive behaviour towards a parent/carer.’ What better way to do this than by sharing conversations with Jane our founder and Matt our Senior Practitioner.
Each episode will be a useful listen whether you are a parent experiencing these behaviours in your family, or someone who works professionally with children/families. They’re not designed to solve all your problems (we wish this was simple as releasing a podcast!) but for you to hear conversations with people who support families who are experiencing CAPA.
Our first season covers topics such as education and school refusal, siblings, neurodiversity and more with Jane and Matt joined by Helen Bonnick, our patron who has (literally!) written a book about ‘CAPVA’.
Season 2 (which you can watch as well as listen to) is a closer look at some strategies and resources we use in our work that families can try themselves, covering topics around validation, safety planning and other important areas. Season 2 is funded by East Sussex County Council, and we’re incredibly grateful for their support.
Our third season will be just around the corner ‘Conversations with Capa’- make sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss it!
You can listen to our podcast on Spotify, Amazon Music, iTunes as well as on Youtube.
As we release each episode you’ll find a blog post with an overview of the episode topic below and you can listen (or watch, for season 2) and at the bottom of this page there’s a video from Matt explaining how the podcast came about.
The Drama Triangle – Season 2 Episode 4
In this episode, we dive into two powerful models that help us understand how we show up in conversations and conflicts. We explore the Drama Triangle, a really useful framework for recognising the roles we slip into when tension rises and the Communication Pie, which breaks down what truly carries weight in how we communicate.
Validation – Season 2 Episode 3
The third episode in Season 2 of The Capa Podcast: “Validation” is now available to listen and watch. In this episode, Matt explains the importance of validating your child's feelings, but without affirming or approving the behaviours and actions.
Safety Planning and Calling the Police – Season 2 Episode 2
For many parents and carers, moments of crisis can feel frightening and overwhelming. In this episode, our Senior Practitioner Matt, together with a guest expert, explains clear and practical strategies to help you prepare for difficult situations. We talk about how to plan ahead for safety, how to de-escalate when possible, and how to make informed decisions about safety planning and calling the police.
Three Faces and Dysregulation – Season 2 Episode 1
The opening episode, “Three Faces and Dysregulation”, explores how children and young people may express distress through three different “faces”. These can include aggression, withdrawal, or other difficult behaviours that put pressure on family relationships. By recognising these patterns as signs of dysregulation rather than deliberate defiance, parents and carers can begin to respond in ways that bring connection instead of conflict.
Our Podcast Returns: A New Season Supporting Families Facing Child-to-Parent Aggression
We are so pleased to share that The Capa First Response Podcast is back with a brand-new season, created to support families who are experiencing Child-to-Parent/Carer Aggression and Harmful Behaviour (CAPA/CAPVA). Thanks to funding from East Sussex County Council,...
The CAPA Podcast Wraps Up First Season with Exciting Plans for the Future
After the successful release of six full length episodes plus a bonus intro, "The CAPA Podcast - Understanding Child Against Parent Aggression" by Capa First Response CIC has received praise for its insightful discussions and empathetic approach towards the...
Podcast S1 Ep6: More About CAPA & Q and A
For our final episode of our first series we're chatting about lots of different things related to 'Child Against Parent Aggression', including talking more about the terms and language we use; validation, regulation, the difference between rules and boundaries...
Podcast S1 Ep5: Definition & Language
Today we're talking about HOW we describe these behaviours, the actions themselves and the words we use when talking about this area to both families and professionals. Aggression, abuse, violence, harmful... we discuss these terms and more. As an organisation we...
Podcast S1 Ep4: Education
This episode focusses on Education, which is a massive part of a child's life. Often issues experienced with children using aggressive behaviours can start with problems experienced at school. We discuss the typical school set up and how it might not work for all...
Podcast S1 Ep3: Neurodiversity
Today we tackle the subject of Neurodiversity in relation to 'child against parent aggression'. We discuss some of the common things that come up, including how hard it is for a neurodivergent person living in a neurotypical world. We talk about adapting strategies...
Podcast S1 Ep2: Siblings
In this episode we discuss the impact this behaviour can have on siblings both directly and indirectly. We talk about differences between children and expectations that they may deal with similar challenges in similar ways, and the problems this can cause when they...
Podcast S1 Ep1: Age & Capa
In our first full length episode, Jane, Matt and Helen are talking about age in relation to Child Against Parent Aggression. We discuss the 'peak' age for a child starts using these behaviours, and whether there are other factors at play too. We also discuss the...
