Tips for Talking to Your Child About Safety
Talking about safety doesn’t have to be scary. It’s about helping your child feel supported and giving everyone in the home a chance to stay calm and connected. Here are some simple ways to start the conversation:
1. Pick a calm moment
Don’t bring up safety rules during a heated moment. Wait until everyone is relaxed, perhaps during dinner, a walk, or after a fun activity.
“Can we talk for a minute about what we can all do to help things feel calmer when someone’s upset?”
2. Keep it short and simple
Use clear, age-appropriate language. Avoid overwhelming your child with too many instructions at once.
“Sometimes we all feel big feelings. Let’s talk about what we can do when that happens.”
3. Focus on teamwork
Frame the conversation as a way to work together — not something being done to them.
“We’re all part of this family, and we all want to feel safe and happy. Let’s come up with a plan together.”
4. Ask for their ideas
Invite your child to share what helps them feel safe or calm. This builds trust and gives them a sense of control.
“What helps you calm down when you feel angry or upset?”
“Where would you like your safe space to be?”
5. Make it positive
Avoid focusing only on problems or dangerous behaviour. Talk about what everyone can do to stay safe.
“If anyone needs space, they can go to their quiet space, and we’ll give them time. That’s a good way to take care of ourselves.”
6. Reassure them
Let your child know they’re not in trouble — and that you’re having this conversation because you care.
“We’re making this plan because we love you and want everyone to feel okay, even when things are hard.”
7. Use visuals if helpful
You can draw the plan together or write it down with symbols or pictures. This can make it feel more real and memorable, especially for younger children or those with additional needs.
8. Keep coming back to it
One conversation isn’t enough. Check in regularly and adjust the plan as your child grows or your situation changes.
“How do you think the plan is working? Is there anything we should change?”
